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Bride and Groom are going to light their Unity Candle, a symbol of their marriage relationship. The candles from which they light it have been lit by their mothers to represent their lives to this moment.

The lights, representing the faith, wisdom, and love they have received from their parents, are distinct, each burning alone. Bride and Groom will light the center candle to symbolize the union of their lives. As this one light burns undivided, so shall their love be one.

From now on, your thoughts shall be for each other rather than for your individual selves. Your joys and sorrows shall be shared alike. May the radiance of this one light be a testimony of your unity. May these candles burn brightly as symbols of your commitment to each other, and as a tribute to your parents' lasting and loving marriages.

A.    ________ and ________, the two outside candles burning here represent your lives at this moment. Each light is distinct, each able to go its separate way. ________ and ________ are two persons; unique, complex, individual human beings. And the same Father who gave each of you your individuality and uniqueness is now giving you to each other. The scriptural mystery shall be fulfilled. The two shall become one flesh. From now on, what each of you have been individually, you will become together. What will touch your lives as individuals will become a part of a new unity. As each of you take a candle, carry the flame to the center candle, and extinguish the small candle, thus let the center fire represent the new unity being celebrated in this service. As the one center light cannot be divided, neither can your lives. May the one in whose name you are joined, who worked in your lives as individuals, continue to walk with you in your life together.

The two outside candles have been lighted to represent both your lives in this moment. They are two distinct lights, each capable of going their separate ways. To bring bliss and happiness to your home, there must be the merging of these two lights into one light. This is what the Lord meant when He said, "On this account a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall be one flesh." From now on your thoughts shall be for each other rather than your individual selves. Your plans shall be mutual, your joys and sorrows shall be shared alike. As you each take a candle and together light the center one, you will extinguish your own candles, thus letting the center candle represent the union of your lives into one flesh. As this one light cannot be divided, neither shall your lives be divided but a united testimony in a Christian home. May the radiance of this one light be a testimony of your unity in the Lord Jesus Christ.

C.            (There are four candles upon the worship center. Only one is lit, the tallest one standing behind a lower, but perhaps wider candle, two unlit candles are in holders on either side.)
     "In God we live and move and have our being," (Acts 17:28). One candle has been lit before and above all others, the candle which represents the presence of God in our lives, the Christ candle. Together you will each take a candle and light it from the Christ candle. All that each of you have ever been, are now, or ever will be, is grounded in the presence of God. Together you will light the center candle from your separate lights, symbolizing that you bring your light, and God's light to this marriage. All lights will remain lit as a testimony that God will shine through your marriage and through your own individual lives. Let your lights shine.

D.    The candles which ________ and ________ now light represents the coming together of their two lives in a marriage relationship. Their two individual candles continue burning. In the same way, ________ and ________ will continue to be two unique individuals in the midst of their marriage. (This can just be printed in the bulletin with no words spoken during the candle lighting.)


(Unity Candle Ceremony)

_________and _________ have chosen to affirm their love by the lighting of a Unity Candle.
The flame of the candle represents light and spirit; and fire is often said to symbolize inspiration, aspiration, power &
By lighting a Unity Candle, they signal their desire to not only join as one in their union, but to unite two families
together as one.

Will a member of the bride and groom’s families please light a side candle which represents the separate lives,
families and experiences before the wedding day?

(Family members each light a candle).

A candle has been lit for each of your families.

______ and ________, please use those candles to light the Unity Candle together.

(Bride and Groom take the side candles and use them to light the center ‘Unity’ candle.)

Prior to this moment you each walked a separate path.
With the lighting of the center candle you have now symbolically joined your once separate lives.
As two flames combined into one light, so now are your friends and family joined, through you, into one.


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